Pluralistic Ignorance: Sex on College Campuses


A really interesting recent entry by Katie Rodriguez from
Equal Writes draws attention to some posters for freshman class president a few
weeks before Fall Break.  Here’s an
excerpt from the article:

A female freshman student
created business cards for her campaign for class president that featured her
slogan “Looking to have a good time freshman year?” and
 “Don’t be Square, Vote for [redacted]!” On the left side of
the business card is a photograph of a shirtless male on top of a shirtless
(but bra wearing) female. The picture seems to suggest that they are either
about to engage in sex or are already engaging in sex.
Check
out the full article here: http://equalwrites.org/2010/10/21/everyones-doing-it/
 

Katie goes on to comment that the ads give people the
impression both that the vast majority of people on campus are sexually active,
but that this is normative. It seems to me pretty important to assure freshmen
who may come to campus unsure of what will be expected of them in college that
there are a large number of people on campus that aren’t sexually active.

Pluralistic ignorance, a term coined by social
psychologists, describes a 
phenomenon where a number of people privately reject a norm but most
people incorrectly think that most others accept it. This seems to be a pretty
accurate description of what’s happening on college campuses. 

Monday Morning Links











In the News this
week:

Abstinent
Students Getting the Best Grades

Iowa
Judges Defeated After Same-Sex Marriage Ruling

Prop
8 Proponents’ Reply Brief in Ninth Circuit

Pornography and Socially
Responsible Investing
 

Marriage and the Law of
Tradition
 

Obama
Signals Shift On Gay Marriage Support

 

Sex in the Age of Mechanical Reproduction

Before Michael Novak turned political and began to plump in
earnest for democratic capitalism, his work focused upon more properly
philosophical themes.  Hence, early
on in his career, he wrote a book called The
Experience of Nothingness
, which I was glancing through the other day.  The book is rather breezy and
conversational and not especially dense, but sprinkled throughout it are some
excellent passages.  One in
particular struck me: 

“The enormous weight, meanwhile,
put upon sexual fulfillment [in modern society] is insupportable; intercourse
is an organic expression of entire psyches, not a mechanical plugging in.  Among young people, the weakening of
cultural forms supporting sexual rituals and restraints deprives sexual
intercourse of sustenance for the imagination and the spirit.  It comes too cheaply: its intimacy is
mainly fake; its symbolic power is reduced to the huddling warmth of kittens in
the darkness – not to be despised, but open as a raw wound to the experience of
nothingness.  Close your eyes and
plummet through the empty space where a lover ought to be.”

Modern culture, for Novak, is marked deeply by the “experience
of nothingness,” the absence of any ground of meaning, be it divine or
not.  The infelicitous alliance (though
this not for Novak) of individualism,
liberalism, and capitalism has conspired to wrench the human person from his
naturally “thick” social milieu, like a limb from its body – and with all the
attendant pain and anguish and self-mutilation.  Through the rampant mechanization and atomization of modern
life, the individual is now cut off from the vital source from which his
identity once flowed and must navigate a desiccated, commodified, disenchanted
world.  It is no surprise, then,
that ours is a culture of wounded psyches.  Modern life, especially in its more extreme modes, is an
abattoir from which few escape unscathed. 

In the midst of all this, the question arises: How is one to
find meaning?  In a world whose
metaphysical horizons have been swept clear and in which “all that is solid
melts into air” (to use Marx’s phrase), one cannot but search for something
that can provide meaning and stability in one’s life.  As Novak suggests above, one such putative source of meaning
is, for many people, sex.  It
claims to offer euphoria, release, ecstasy, liberation, and an escape from the
dull and harsh conditions of modern society.  By means of the body, it claims to supply a flight from the
body, proposing as its glorious goal a spiritual unity with one’s partner.  In order to cope with the realities of
life, then, sex has become mechanical in its means and spiritual in its ends, a
split of subject and object.  To
put a twist on Walter Benjamin, we are now living in the age of mechanical
reproduction.

We are trying to find ghosts of meaning in the machines of
our bodies.  But this meaning
cannot be found.  Divorced from the
(mechanized) body, such meaning becomes only formal, lacking in substance or
content that could give it real depth. 
And so, to that extent, this kind of sought-after unity cannot be
realized.  With the body viewed as
just a simplistic mechanism – not as the lived
body – no true inter-subjective integration is possible; a person is just a
monad, an atom isolated from all other atoms.  Fulfilled only for a fleeting moment by one’s sexual
partner, desire cannot rest, but moves on searching for fulfillment elsewhere,
in other sexual encounters and in other expressions of sexuality – if only to
satisfy the heart’s longing for unity. 
But the dialectic repeats itself: at once mechanized and spiritualized,
sex of this sort cannot adequately attain its end.  Neither ghosts nor machines can provide us with
meaning.  But if not in casual
sexual encounters, then how else is one to find meaning in a meaningless
world?  In marriage. 

It is in marriage, in the actual, organic, psychosomatic
unity of man and woman committing and sacrificing their lives and their very
selves to each other, naturally ordered towards the incomprehensibly wonderful
ends of procreation and spousal companionship that connect the couple to all of
society and to generations past and future – it is in all of this that true
meaning lies.  The antidote to the
rationalization and technologization of society is to be found not in so-called
“liberated” sex, but, paradoxically, in marriage.  For marriage, though one of the most ancient and venerable
institutions, is at the same time the most subversive and radical, standing
obliquely to the currents of the age and to all the passing orthodoxies.

This is why, today, it is necessary more than ever to hold up
marriage as an ideal.  But this is,
of course, not easy to do: the ideology, the false consciousness forced upon
us by the debacle that was the “sexual revolution” still holds powerful
sway.  The rapid explosion of “freedom”
in the sexual sphere has drowned out the firm but soft voice of marriage in our
culture.  But the whole revolution
was based upon an illusion, a massive one, holding out a promise of ghostly
meaning in our mechanical bodies. 
Yet these are promises that have gone – and must go – wholly
unfulfilled.  It is time we stopped
believing in ghosts.

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Tyler Clementi, Tragedy, and the Media Response



In the wave of the recent
death of Tyler Clementi, a Rutgers student who committed suicide after his
roommate broadcasted Clementi’s sexual activities on the internet, I was
thinking about the response to the suicide.

Before I go any further, I
should comment on a few things. First, I think it goes without saying that
Clementi’s roommate, Dharun Ravi, and his friend Molly Wei, were wrong to
publicize Clementi’s encounters on the internet. It was a breach of privacy and
is contrary to basic norms of civility and decency. I’d like to echo the
sentiments by all who were similarly bothered by the activities of Ravi and
Wei. Secondly, Clementi’s death was tragic. He was clearly in an emotionally
fragile state after the broadcast, and felt that there were no resources to
assist him such that he resorted to suicide. It is great to see other people
shaken into action – as they seek to provide resources for students in similar
situations such that these vulnerable students don’t turn to such desperate
actions. And, of course, it goes without saying that this is a reminder that we
should affirm the dignity of all people–regardless of race, religion, political
ideology, or sexual orientation.
 

Given all of this, I was
intrigued by an editorial published in the Rutger’s student newspaper, The
Daily Targum, concerning the reaction to Clementi’s reaction that argues people
were insensitive to his death by using it as a cause: http://www.dailytargum.com/opinions/media-exploits-university-tragedy-1.2354299.

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Wednesday Tea-Time Links

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A
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Dating on a
Shoe-String Budget

For Children:
Marriage Is About More Than Emotions
 

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