Lady Gaga and the Hook-up Culture

by Shivani Radhakrishnan


Despite being somewhat skeptical about the relevance of this post to “philosophy”, I found this observation from the NY Times philosophy blog, The Stone, pretty interesting:

“If there’s anything that feminism has bequeathed to young women of means, it’s that power is their birthright.  Visit an American college campus on a Monday morning and you’ll find any number of amazingly ambitious and talented young women wielding their brain power, determined not to let anything — including a relationship with some needy, dependent man — get in their way.  Come back on a party night, and you’ll find many of these same girls (they stopped calling themselves “women” years ago) wielding their sexual power, dressed as provocatively as they dare, matching the guys drink for drink — and then hook-up for hook-up.”

Read the full article here.

Science of Commitment

The NY Times ran a great article today on commitment detailing psychological findings that indicate that while some people may be more naturally inclined to resist temptation to break commitment, people can also train themselves to raise their feelings of commitment once they are in a relationship.

The article cites a few studies on reactions to possible relationship threats when parties are in committed relationships. I found the study by a McGill psychologist John Lydon most interesting. In the study, married men and women were asked to rate the attractiveness of people of the opposite sex in a series of photos. Married men and women gave the highest ratings to people we typically think of as attractive. However, the same individuals were later shown similar pictures and told that the attractive person was interested in meeting them. In this case, participants often gave those pictures lower scores than they had the first time around.

Lydon mentioned that this may be a defensive mechanism that participants used to remain faithful to their commitment. When the participants were attracted to someone who may threaten their relationship, they instinctively compensated by lowering their assessment of the potential threat.

Read the full article here.

Salman Rushdie & Commitment

“The avalanche of sex in which Gibreel Farishta was trapped managed to bury his greatest talent so deep that it might easily have been lost forever, his talent, that is, for loving genuinely, deeply and without holding back, the rare and delicate gift which he had never been able to employ.” – The Satanic Verses, Salman Rushdie

 

In reading Rushdie (a long-time favorite of mine), I was struck by his poignant observation: Farishta’s casual sexual encounters with a number of women were detrimental to his actual ability to care about a single woman. That is, he began to dissociate sex from it’s proper place-  in a committed relationship. By separating a sexual act from it’s object, the weight and meaning of sex are reduced. Granted, Rushdie’s own love life is far from committed, but that’s a separate issue.